It was back some time after feminism, but
long before HashTagMeToo…
when a friend of ours, told us, just out of
the blue, that at work he’d been given
a formal warning –
and this was back when gender equality was really
about being seen to be even with oral sex,
at least that’s how we understood it –
anyway, this bud of ours had been told off
real good – or real bad I guess,
it was on the record, he had to stop
using the word ‘panties’ at work.
and I had one question for him – then (and
now): “how, on earth, did it come up?
what was the context, why were you saying
it? how had it been that
you had been in situations
enough times at work, or with work colleagues to say
it the more than one time that would result in any
kind of warning?”
he never explained, but agreed to not use it
he worked in catering at Te Papa.
though not for very much longer.